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I don’t know if I can count the number of conversations I’ve had with my girlfriends about the irony of being an Asian American woman. We could rant for HOURSSSSSS about how it is literally impossible to navigate the beauty standards and gender constructs of both cultures that we resonate with. In America, we value individualism and confidence comes from within. But in China (and other Asian countries), women idolize and strive to achieve a certain look that represents ‘true feminine beauty’. 

Women now preach self-care over anything else. The general consensus is that if you look healthy and confident, then you are attractive.


Curves look healthy and more feminine while tan skin looks glowy. Women go out of their way to maintain the sun-kissed look through spray tans and tanning beds.

But ultimately, women here come in all different shapes, sizes, and colors. It's impossible to achieve one look.

Women are held to a certain look that society is obsessed with. The closer you are to achieving that look, the more attractive you are. 

Characterized by snow-white skin, a very thin frame, a tall nose bridge, big eyes, oval face, small feet, that list goes on and on.  

Women would go through immeasurable lengths to bleach their skin and avoid the sun. Having pale skin is traditionally a sign of wealth and class.

Although I live in the States, it’s difficult to not compare myself to the Chinese goddess look. I sometimes find myself abiding by some of these traditional and far-fetched standards. Not because I think they're ethical or justified, but because it’s deeply rooted in Asian culture. Although I don't agree with these standards, it keeps my mind more open about how differently beauty is defined, I guess.

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